So, what happens when you are one year from turning 30, and you realize you are nowhere near where you thought you'd be at 30? If you're me, you freak out about everything, eat a cheese pizza while watching a sad foreign film on Netflix, stress the hell out, and once the grease has soaked up all the anxiety, you make a plan to do more before the big Three-O hits you in the face and you realize you've done nothing exciting.
Many are fortunate to be where they want to be at 30.... yeah right! No one is where they want to be at 30. Whether it's career wise, financially, or other personal reasons, no one is actually exactly where they thought they'd be. I haven't read any studies to actually prove this, but everyone I know that has already hit 30 was not entirely happy about their life so you'll just have to take my word for it. That last glorious youthful birthday was a reminder that they wanted to do more in life. For me that reminder came a bit early, at 29. How the hell did I get to 29 again? Last I remember I was 25 and thrilled about renting a car. 26, 27 and 28 were all a blur in time where nothing significant happened (except a marriage proposal which I eventually rejected. Bullet, dodged! Story for another time). And then all of the sudden SMACK! 29 came and smacked me like I owed it some money and it wanted it now! All of the sudden I remembered I wanted to do more in my life and I needed to figure out what more was.
For many people, and once upon a time for me as well, more meant getting married, having children, buying a house, picket white fence, and adult clothes. Side note, does everyone at one point realize that need to start shopping at the Loft, Zara and other "adult" stores, or was that just me? The cool thing is that these clothes actually fit adults much better! So sneaky, who knew? Anyway, my definition of more had to change. I want to have a family and a house and picket white fence one day, but I don't want those things right now anymore. I had to redefine what more meant to me. The fear of turning 30 made me realign myself and reconsider my wants and needs. The dreams I held of marriage and children were dreams of a 20 year old rushing through life. I am now able to pause time for a minute, and attempt to slow it down through amazing experiences. I want to live!
So what is more? Today, doing more consists of a few things for me: traveling, cooking, learning a new language, having more fun and last but not least a great career. Then came the second realization - I HAVE NO MONEY! How does one travel more, learn new things, have more fun and make great career choices with no money? Many people work really hard today, and save save save so that they can enjoy their time and life as retirees, and then as we all do, pass away a decade or so later. I reject this thought! I want to live today. I don't want to wait until my money is right, or my life is perfect before living the life I want. This is my adventure and I can do it frugally. Join me and we'll do it together.
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